What Kind of Sports Parent Are You?

 

I just heard about an Australian municipality that actually passed ordinances regulating parental conduct at sporting events. Failure to follow the rules might result in expulsion from the play area and/or financial penalties. My initial impression was: "Really? Is that really required?" I then came to the conclusion that the Australians are on the correct route after thinking about our own American sports parents. In Texas, a cheerleader's mother killed a rival cheerleader to increase her own سایت شرط بندی daughter's chances of "joining the team." Other examples have been as banal as a little league umpire being disparaged during a game. Being in the children's/sports industry, I can claim that I've observed a variety of odd parenting philosophies.

 

 

Over the course of my more than 30 years as an administrator, coach, and teacher, I have witnessed numerous incidents that the typical person would find unbelievable. I have also observed other parents who gave me some advice on how to act as a parent, and I make an effort to follow in their footsteps every day.

 

The objectives of a competent sport parent should be the same as those of a good coach, which is to fully develop the athlete. As a coach and parent, I have worked to instil principles in my kids and serve as a role model for good character. Yes, of course, as a coach, I enjoy seeing my teams succeed. However, as it is said in our Gymfinity team manual, "there will be no true way to win when the trophy is more essential than the grin."

 

Without sports parents, and without them performing their "job," the coach's job becomes all but impossible. The athlete must first be provided by the parent, who must also ensure that the child is ready for sports, not merely get them to the gym. Let's compare athletes to race vehicles to better understand: Excellent drivers, decent fuel, and good parts are essential for autos. Just as adults require a clear intellect (their driver) to grasp not just the "how to," but also the "why," children need a healthy body (their automobile) with a good diet of food, sleep, and other varied ingredients (fuel). The coach has nothing to work with if the race car isn't in good form.

 

The next step is for the parents to balance their child's world. They must make their kids juggle three balls: one for school, one for home, and one for sports. They must be available to assist a child or athlete who drops a ball in getting up and regaining control of it. The parent's two بهترین سایت پیش بینی most important responsibilities are supplying and balancing. Beyond that, they must remain objective, let their child or athlete achieve what they can, decide on their outcomes, wrestle with the outcomes, and show them unwavering love whether they win or lose.

 

Similar to parents, coaches and players too have responsibilities to do. Even if a coach's job is more technically inclined, they still depend on the parent and athlete to carry out their responsibilities so that they can perform their own. The triangle's three corners—coach, parent, and athlete—become problematic when they begin to blend together. When someone jumps into another person's role, there is confusion, which for the youngster can lead to significant stress and frequently has the opposite effect of what everyone wanted to happen: the performance. The downfall of the kid athlete occurs when the equilibrium I said is lost; when victory and sport take precedence over education and family, problems also arise. Though it might not take place immediately, the process of slowly destroying the child is already underway.

 

There are a few typical parental viewpoints that contribute to a child's failure (understand that the term failure is not only in reference to sport). The majority of parents will read this material and distance themselves from the familiarity of the issues; they acknowledge that having parents like that may be difficult for a child, but fail to recognise that they may also be "those parents." We ought to keep an open mind, in my opinion.

 

 Last year, my son tried to take up soccer, but it didn't work out. Despite the fact that I should know better, I discovered that I possessed all of the traits typical of problematic parents to some extent. Because I was never a good soccer player despite having a strong desire to be one, I discovered that I wanted my son to "win" or play well. After gymnastics was discontinued, I looked for other sports to play on the team at my school, but I was not very good.

 

I was a talented athlete who understood the importance of working hard and always held the view that perseverance has its own rewards. I was aware that I was known as the "Gymfinity guy" by every team parent and by other teams. I believed that I needed to demonstrate that I was a good dad in addition to being a good coach. I became the embodiment of all the incorrect beliefs that parents hold and which have caused me so much misery over the years. I wanted my son to demonstrate that we can all play soccer; I wanted him to succeed where I failed. I wanted him to train fervently and passionately, exceeding his own particular objectives. And I wanted everyone to know that I was a fantastic mom because that's why Owen scored his goal. Wrong, wrong, and wrong in a lot of ways. That was Owen. He played up until it became boring. He shares my dislike of team sports, so I suppose in a sense I did got the "mini-me" I was looking for. Regarding parental satisfaction, I will have to settle for the fact that I outperformed the player who was on his phone throughout the entire game.

 

Between the too zealous parent and the encouraging and helpful parent, there are some characteristics that are fairly clear-cut. They yell occasionally and are sometimes subdued. Obsessive parents constantly try to draw attention to their kids, whether publicly or secretly; they want them to be known. How else can they prove to others that they are wonderful parents? They frequently feel that their efforts are insufficient and are only content with material things, such as a "W" in the column, a trophy, or a medal. These parents don't provide their child or athlete the freedom to make choices or the fortitude to handle the consequences of those choices. However, when the parent sets the strategy, they only have criticism for the kid who executed their botched plan. They frequently fail to recognise their own responsibility for the outcome. Every time I hear the phrase "I just want what's best for her," I know that the next statement will be all about the parent. A good sports parent gives their child or athlete some control over choices that have an impact on their performance. Though it is tougher to let a young child make decisions, you might be surprised by how much thought is going on in that little brain. You must learn to listen for it, but you also need to practise being supportive. My Owen gave basketball a try following the soccer season. He held the ball still for 15 minutes on the first practise day. He was surrounded by children playing, the coach supported him, and other parents clapped for him to at least bounce the ball. However, nothing occurred. My other son wasn't even startled when I went outside to change his diaper (oh, parenthood), and when I came inside, I learned that he hadn't. The ability to hear such message did not require "super hearing." Owen therefore wasn't a baller. OK.