ADHD: Social skills, such as starting and maintaining a good conversation

Most children with ADHD have serious problems establishing relationships with other children. The overactivity and impulsiveness that characterize them often cause rejection in other children, especially when they try to work or play together. In fact, many children feel threatened by the ease with which ADHD children become offended, frustrated, or aggressive. The end result will be that they earn a bad reputation among their classmates.

Children with ADHD may fundamentally have problems in any of the following social skills:

•  Start an intervention with other children or with a group of children.
•  Start and maintain a conversation with another child.

Communication is at the origin of all human relationships. There are elements that facilitate communication and others that hinder it.

Of the three, assertiveness is interpersonal behavior that involves the direct expression of one's own feelings and the defense of one's own personal rights, without denying the rights of others. That is why we must teach the child to defend and assert his rights assertively, valuing himself and making others value him and respect his wishes, tastes and opinions.

            

Set the stage for a conversation :

1. Determine who you are going to talk to.
2. Choose the right time and place.
3. Determine the topic you are going to talk about.

To start a conversation you need:

1. Approach the other person, look at them, smile at them.
2. Greet her (if known) or introduce yourself (if unknown)
3. Use a formula or verbal expression to start a conversation.
4. Use non-verbal behavior in accordance with the verbal message (intonation, facial expression, gestures, proximity).

The most common ways to start a conversation are :

•  Ask a question or comment about the common situation.
•  Paying the other person a compliment on their behavior, appearance, or some other attribute.
•  Make a casual observation or question about what the other person is doing.
•  Offer something to the other person.
•  Give the opinion or share the experience of what the other person says.

To have a conversation with another person:

1. You have to listen to what he tells you. Which it involves.
2. Answer the questions that are being asked and you at the same time asking what you do not understand or asking for more information.
3. You express your ideas and opinions. Give additional information about yourself.
4. Take turns in conversation.
5. Do everything possible so that you feel comfortable and enjoy the conversation (Smile, say pleasant phrases)
6. Change the subject when appropriate.

It is not correct :

•  Incorrect posture, lack of eye contact.
•  Voice too low or too high.

To end a conversation :

1. Communicate to the other person that the conversation has to end (if appropriate, the reasons are given).
2. Excuse and apologize. If so, express to the other person that you have enjoyed the conversation and her company. Let them know that you would like to chat with her again, if appropriate.
3. Say goodbye.